5 Helpful Ways To Tackle Toxic Gratitude at Work

By Sarah Kiely Lavelle

Practising gratitude is big business.

Given that the wellness industry is on track to be worth $USD7 trillion ($AUD10.9 trillion) by 2025 (seven times Australia’s GDP), it appears we’ve bought into the happiness hype.

Focusing on the good in our lives and training our minds to feel genuine appreciation can be a positive practice.

Gratitude, a mindfulness exercise feted by many famous faces––some even attribute their success in life to the ritual––has been around for years.

However, it can also harbour a more sinister side, and evidence of gratitude being weaponised in the workplace is a growing concern, as insincere expressions of gratitude can be used as manipulation tactics to conceal mistreatment. 

Unrealistic expectations to remain upbeat in times of stress can take a huge toll on our mental health over a sustained period.

Likewise, by forcing our own personal narrative that everything is ok, we may run the risk of gaslighting ourselves and discounting our distress. This can result in ignoring our instincts and remaining in situations that are unhealthy.

Warning signs at work

Toxic gratitude can take on many forms at work. Throwaway comments like ‘’it could be worse’’ or ‘’first world problems’’ when an employee or coworker is trying to express their feelings can be harmful. The act of comparing situations as to who has it better or worse risks invalidating a person’s lived experience.

Worryingly, toxic gratitude can lead to an abuse of power among authority figures and management and individuals may find it difficult to raise concerns for fear of being dismissed, potentially creating a culture of avoidance as a result.

Superficial compliments can also result in a lack of meaningful feedback and potentially leave staff feeling undervalued. It’s been shown that structured and constructive conversations are more beneficial and can foster a culture of genuine appreciation, understanding, and respect.

Tackling the toxicity

If you feel like your own workplace is a prime example of toxic gratitude, here’s how to tackle it in five manageable steps:

1.   Feedback is fundamental

A safe space for employees and co-workers to share their issues is crucial when creating a genuine environment for feedback. Encouraging both employees and employers to engage in honest and constructive feedback may implement changes for the better.

2.   Listen more

By actively listening and leading with empathy we can get a better understanding of an individual’s needs. Addressing issues instead of dismissing them with toxic gratitude can improve relationships at work.

3.   Equitable environments

Addressing power imbalances or outdated hierarchy structures within the workplace is important. Also celebrating diversity and different points of view has been proven to create a more diverse culture and better learnings for all.

4.   Teamwork

Promoting goodwill among staff and celebrating authentic achievements may reduce competition and opportunity for manipulation or conditional compliments from management occurring.

5.   Opportunity for advancement

To avoid stagnation on-the-job learning is a great way to keep skill sets sharp and the passion for your job ignited. This may increase the likelihood of genuine gratitude for your profession and how to avoid unhealthy behaviours.

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